The Personal Priorities You Don’t Know You Have

AKA My Biggest Struggle From 2012.

We’ve all got our priorities -  whether or not we intentionally set them is another story.

Did you know that you have set priorities that are actually taking you further away from the life you really want?

Actions speak louder than words.

How do you spend your time throughout the day?

What’s the first thing you do when you wake up?

Do these actions fit with what you really want?

This was one of my biggest struggles throughout 2012.  My actions were misaligned from what I really wanted.  My priorities were not ones that I had intentionally set – they were more set in place by default and comforting habits.

In this article I am going to take you through the 3 steps you need in order to start moving towards your desired life (in and out of the bedroom).

Step 1.

Take a moment to recognize your current priorities.  To do this first look at ho you spend your time – this will show you your current priorities.

Example: You wake up and press snooze for 20 minutes then wake up by checking your email and Facebook while still in bed.  You start thinking of all the things you need to do and get up going to work in a rush without putting on your favorite, feel good outfit or eating/drinking a healthy breakfast.  On your lunch break you either a) work through it. b) check your email/social media while eating rushed and distracted instead of c) going for a nice walk and eating outside like you really wanted to.

Then you bring work home (physically and or mentally) and instead of having a dinner date with a friend, man or yourself you are totally not present and up in your head while you do housework or escape by watching T.V. (or back to the goo ol’ computer).

Priority breakdown = Other people’s wants/ needs, work, work, other people’s wants/needs, half-assed connection with others, having a clean house, escaping.

Are those the priorities you thought you had?

Step 2.

Decide what priorities you really want to set for yourself.

Example:  Nurture body/spirit/mind, serve your purpose while having fun, connect with others (inc. current/future partner), learn/grow/adventure, organize, sleep.

There is no right or wrong way – all that matters is that you are living your life a.k.a. taking actions based on the priorities that are most important to YOU! (not everyone else…).

Step 3.

Find ways to put your new priorities into daily action.  Start with small, simple steps, especially if there’s a big disconnect between step 1 and step 2 for you.

Examples:

- Make a green juice before checking your phone/computer.

- Put on something that makes you feel sexy; underwear/top/skirt before going to work.

- Do 10 minutes of stretching on your lunch break.

- Once a week plan to go somewhere/try something/meet someone new.

- Read, write, meditate for 5 minutes before bed.

- Take the T.V., phone, computer out of the bedroom.

- 30 minutes of uninterrupted connection time (put phone away) with partner/self/friends

- Plan date times

There will be resistance.  I encourage you to expect it.

Notice those little thoughts like “just today” “I’ll start tomorrow” ” I’m too busy” “there isn’t time” or sabotaging actions like sleeping in, checking phone, etc.

When they happen (and they will…) just notice, smile and re-commit to your set priorities.

Then re-commit again…and again… and again… first thing in the morning, at lunch, before you go to bed, and whenever else those thoughts come up.

At first if you don’t success – try again and celebrate when you do succeed (even if it’s just doing 5 minutes of something you said you were going to).  So, woo hoo in advance!  You rock!

Comment below and share where you noticed a disconnect between your actions and your true desired priorities (the ones that will bring you towards your desired life – in and out of the bedroom).

Is one of your priorities for the new  year more pleasure??  Perhaps more fun, adventure and life living?

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