Drama to Dharma

Craving Drama and Excitement?

Have you ever created fights, problems and suffering in your relationship in order to boost the drama factor??

Your initial response might be “of course not, why would I want to create those stressful situation?!” Take a closer look.

Chances are at some point you have created unnecessary drama in your relationship to satisfy your unmet needs.

Below is a story about the experiences I have creating in order to have more drama in my life as well as some juicy action steps to help you create more positive and exciting drama in your relationships. 

My life is and always has been pretty low drama, that is just my personality and how I roll. But lately I have been having some interesting experiences that I thought I would share with you, because I am sure you can relate in some way and hopefully can learn something from it.

As some of you may know, I will be getting married this August. Apparently I have some old beliefs about marriage kicking around that have been stirring some stuff up!

Although I was (and am) very excited and happy to be getting married, I was unconsciously starting to create negative dramatic situations both physically and mentally because I had a belief system that marriage is boring, unexciting, and lacking in passion.

This was one of the reasons why growing up I had no intention of ever getting married.

But now that I have found this man that I love so dearly and passionately that I can’t help but want to spend the rest of my life with him – the idea of marriage does not seem so daunting.

Over the last month or so this unconscious belief system was creeping up more and more. I started to imagine that our relationship was going to get stale and that I would be missing out on all the excitement and passion that we had before.

This caused me to create a not so fun physical drama. I started to experience pain during sex. This was a very frustrating and emotionally painful for me to experience because my sexuality is such an important part of my life…both in and out of the bedroom. I was so frustrated and overwhelmed that one of the times I started crying…right in the middle of it! WTF! This is very unlike me, so this threw me off big time.

Luckily my man rocks and is my rock. We were able to talk and I could tell him all the things I was thinking, fearing and worrying about. I was all up in my head!

I could tell him that because we hadn’t been doing as many exciting and fun things together lately I was freaking out. I could also share with him my desires and what I felt I needed in order to feel more connected to him. I am thankful for this pain that I experienced because it has allowed me to see that I created that drama in order to see my need and desire for excitement, fun, and connection both in and out of the bedroom.

Had I not become aware of this our normally healthy, easy and drama-free relationship probably would have spiralled downwards maybe even ending with me falling into an old pattern of self destruction – cheating.

Thankfully my awareness and our ability to communicate so openly nipped it all in the bud and has brought out the opportunity to be even more aware and communicate even more about creating positive drama and excitement in our lives both before and after getting married.

So if you have been feeling like your relationship with someone you love is getting dull, stale and a little too routine (or if it is going great an you want to keep it that way! Prevention is a most wonderful option) try creating some positive, fun and exciting drama in your life!

1. Establish what is fun and exciting for you, you can’t have it if you don’t know what it is. For me it is learning new things with my partner, being outdoors, being active, going for trips and seeing new places. Make a list of what you want to do to create excitement and fun.

** trying new things together and being committed to each other for a period of time every day and every week creates a special bond and connection that allows us to better bond and connect with each other sexually. 

2. Have your partner do the same.3. Hang out together for at least an hour sharing the different things you want to do and what excites you. Make this a priority, it is important and effects your whole life.  4. Make a game plan of the things you are going to be committed to incorporating into your life together. I suggest starting with the things that you both are drawn to. From there go to the items on the list that are most important to one of you and work on those. Be willing to compromise a little and be open minded. 5. Get open, honest and creative! With yourself and your partner. Start opening up and share the big things you keep inside with your partner. What are your fantasies? Start with just sharing one and see how you can make it fun and real for both of you. 6. Have fun! And most importantly be gentle with yourself – take good care of you!

So if you want some drama go on and get the good stuff! I know my dharma is to have a fun, exciting life, what about you?

Need help clarifying your desires? Do you keep all your thoughts and fantasies on lock down with yourself? Does the thought of talking with your partner scare the sh*t out of you? I can help!  Life doesn’t have to be lacking in passion, fun and excitement, so if you want more your next step is to go and apply for a Free Get Your Sexy On Breakthrough Session.

If you like it, share it   Take action now and share below what helps you keep your relationships fun and exciting! And if you are really brave share a situation in which you created negative drama in a relationship. 

Once again the link to apply for your FREE Get Your Sexy On Breakthrough Session is here. 

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